Практика любви. Осознанный подход к восстановлению и развитию отношений - Лэйр Торрент

Глава 10

{1} Dispenza, Joe. Breaking the Habit of Being Yourself: How to Lose Your Mind and Create a New One. Hay House, 2016.

{2} Even-Chen, Nir. et al. «Mental Rehearsal Prepares Our Brains For Real World Actions». FeaturedOpen Neuroscience ArticlesPsychology ·July 9, 2020, neurosciencenews.com/mental-rehearsal-action-8505/.

{3} Iyer, Pico and Eydís Einarsdóttir. The Art of Stillness: Adventures in Going Nowhere. TED Books/Simon & Schuster, 2014.

{4} Perel, Esther. Mating in Captivity: Reconciling the Erotic and the Domestic. HarperCollins, 2006.

{5} Birnbaum, Gurit E. et al. «What Fantasies Can Do to Your Relationship: The Effects of Sexual Fantasies on Couple Interactions». Personality and Social Psychology Bulletin, vol. 45, no. 3, 2018, pp. 461–476., doi:10.1177/0146167218789611.

Глава 11

{1} Design, Chief Web. «The Tale of Two Wolves — Nanticoke Indian Association». Nanticoke Indians. https://www.nanticokeindians.org/page/tale-of-two-wolves.

{2} Singh, Guru. Buried Treasures: The Journey from Where You Are to Who You Are. Re Evolution Publishing, 2014.

{3} Gordon, Amie M. et al. «To Have and to Hold: Gratitude Promotes Relationship Maintenance in Intimate Bonds». Journal of Personality and Social Psychology, vol. 103, no. 2, 2012, pp. 257–274., doi:10.1037/a0028723.; Fredrickson, Barbra, L. et al, «Mental Rehearsal Prepares Our Brains For Real World Actions». Neuroscience News. February 16, 2018. https://neurosciencenews.com/mental-rehearsal-action-8505/. «Open hearts build lives».

{4} Слово «метта» на санскрите означает «великодушие, дружелюбие, приязнь и интерес к окружающим».

{5} Chapin, Heather L. et al. «Pilot Study of a Compassion Meditation Intervention in Chronic Pain». Journal of Compassionate Health Care 1, no. 1 (2014). doi:10.1186/s40639-014-0004-x.

{6} Leppma, Monica. «Loving-Kindness Meditation and Counseling». Journal of Mental Health Counseling 34, no. 3 (2012): 197–204. doi:10.17744/mehc.34.3.955g218; Boellinghaus, Inga et al. «The Role of Mindfulness and Loving-Kindness Meditation in Cultivating Self-Compassion and Other-Focused Concern in Health Care Professionals». Mindfulness 5, no. 2 (2012): 129–38. doi:10.1007/s12671-012-0158-6.; Klimecki, Olga M., Susanne Leiberg, Claus Lamm and Tania Singer. «Functional Neural Plasticity and Associated Changes in Positive Affect After Compassion Training». Cerebral Cortex 23, no. 7 (2012): 1552–561. doi:10.1093/cercor/bhs142.

{7} Gordon, Amie M., Emily A. Impett, Aleksandr Kogan, Christopher Oveis and Dacher Keltner. «To Have and to Hold: Gratitude Promotes Relationship Maintenance in Intimate Bonds». Journal of Personality and Social Psychology 103, no. 2 (2012): 257–74. doi:10.1037/a0028723.; Barton, Allen W., Ted G. Futris and Robert B. Nielsen. «Linking Financial Distress to Marital Quality: The Intermediary Roles of Demand/withdraw and Spousal Gratitude Expressions». Personal Relationships 22, no. 3 (2015): 536–49. doi:10.1111/pere.12094.

{8} Suddeath, Eric G. et al. «Narrative Family Therapy: Practical Techniques for More Effective Work with Couples and Families». Journal of Mental Health Counseling 39, no. 2 (2017): 116–31. doi:10.17744/mehc.39.2.03.

{9} Tolle, Eckhart. A New Earth: Awakening to Your Life’s Purpose. Penguin Books, 2016.

Часть 4

{1} Gurman, Alan S. and David P. Kniskern. Handbook of Family Therapy. Brunner/Mazel, 1981.

Глава 13

{1} «„Why Would I Want to Do Dishes?“ The Importance of „Choosing“ Your Partner in Relationships». Elephant Journal. https://www.elephantjournal.com/2015/11/why-would-i-want-to-do-dishes-the-importance-of-choosing-your-partner-in-relationships/.

{2} Chapman, Gary D. and Randy Southern. The 5 Love Languages. Northfield Publishing, 2014.

{3} Bunt, Selena and Zoe J. Hazelwood. «Walking the Walk, Talking the Talk: Love Languages, Self-regulation and Relationship Satisfaction». Personal Relationships 24, no. 2 (2017): 280–90. doi:10.1111/pere.12182.

{4} «Speaking Your Partner’s Love Language May Not Matter». Psychology Today. April 05, 2017. https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/intimate-portrait/201704/speaking-your-partners-love-language-may-not-matter.

Глава 14

{1} Simon Senik, «HOW TO MAKE AN IMPACT», Interview by Tom Bilyeu, Motivation2Study, YouTube, Nov 21, 2017, 3:36, https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=7MR0ZqyhSAA

{2} «Oxytocin». Psychology Today. https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/basics/oxytocin.

{3} «’Love Hormone’ Is Two-faced: Oxytocin Strengthens Bad Memories and Can Increase Fear and Anxiety». ScienceDaily. July 22, 2013. https://www.sciencedaily.com/releases/2013/07/130722123206.htm.

{4} «Oxytocin: The Love Hormone?» Medical News Today. https://www.medicalnewstoday.com/articles/275795

{5} «Oxytocin Can Improve Compassion in People with Symptoms of PTSD». ScienceDaily. March 10, 2016. https://www.sciencedaily.com/releases/2016/03/160310112400.htm.

{6} Grebe, Nicholas M. et al. «Oxytocin and Vulnerable Romantic Relationships». Hormones and Behavior. March 12, 2017. https://www.sciencedirect.com/science/article/abs/pii/S0018506X1630157X.

{7} «The Science of Kindness». Cedars. https://www.cedars-sinai.org/blog/science-of-kindness.html.

{8} Mcleod, Saul. «Maslow’s Hierarchy of Needs». Simply Psychology. March 20, 2020. https://www.simplypsychology.org

{9} Seltzer, Leon F. «Feeling Understood — Even More Important Than Feeling Loved?» Psychology Today, Sussex Publishers, 28 June 2017, www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/evolution-the-self/201706/feeling-understood-even-more-important-feeling-loved.

{10} Lun, Janetta, Selin Kesebir and Shigehiro Oishi. «On Feeling Understood and Feeling Well: The Role of Interdependence». Journal of Research in Personality. December 2008. https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC2652476/.

{11} NI; Morelli SA; Torre JB; Eisenberger. «The Neural Bases of Feeling Understood and Not Understood». Social Cognitive and Affective Neuroscience. https://pubmed.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/24396002/.

{12} S; Gordon AM; Chen. «Do You Get Where I’m Coming From?: Perceived Understanding Buffers against the Negative Impact of Conflict on Relationship Satisfaction». Journal of Personality and Social Psychology. https://pubmed.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/26523997/.

{13} Hendrix, Harville et al. Making Marriage Simple: 10 Relationship-saving Truths. Harmony Books, 2013.

{14} Джонсон С. Обними меня крепче. Москва: Манн, Иванов и Фербер, 2022.

{15} Winter, Julie, Personal email to the author, December 5, 2020.

{16} Kavar, Louis F. The Integrated Self: a Holistic Approach to Spirituality and Mental Health Practice. O-Books, 2012.

Глава 17

{1} Ялом И. Экзистенциальная психотерапия. Москва: Класс, 2019.

Глава 18

{1} «The Cornerstone of Any Mature Relationship». Elephant Journal. https://www.elephantjournal.com/2017/11/the-cornerstone-of-any-mature-relationship/.

{2} «What’s so Tough About Apologizing?» Psychology Today. June 02, 2013. https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/time-out/201306/what-s-so-tough-about-apologizing.

{3} Engel, Beverly. «Why We Need to Apologize». Psychology Today. June 12, 2020. https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/the-compassion-chronicles/202006/why-we-need-apologize.

{4} Peck, M. Scott. The Road Less Traveled: A New Psychology of Love, Traditional Values and Spiritual Growth. Simon & Schuster, 2003.

{5} Hendricks, Gay. The