Обними меня крепче. 7 диалогов для любви на всю жизнь - Сью Джонсон

Доктор Джонсон – член Американской психологической ассоциации. У нее множество почетных знаний и наград, в том числе за выдающийся вклад в супружескую и семейную терапию от Американской ассоциации семейной и супружеской терапии и изучения семьи и брака, а также за вклад в исследования в области семейной терапии от Американской ассоциации семейной терапии.

Автор «Обними меня крепче» обучает методам ЭФТ психотерапевтов по всему миру, а также выступает консультантом для Вооруженных сил США и Канады и Нью-Йоркского городского пожарного департамента.

Сью Джонсон живет в Оттаве с мужем, детьми и собакой. Обожает оперы Гилберта и Салливана, а также телешоу «Летающий цирк Монти Пайтона». Танцует аргентинское танго и ездит на озера на севере Канады плавать на каяке.

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Часть первая. Любовь, как она есть

Любовь: революция в теории

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