How to avoid becoming a spinster? - Ulbosyn Naurizbaevna Shaleken

with a happy ending. Remember Bill Gates? Did you know he met his future wife at work?

Bill Gates, Microsoft founder met Melinda Ann at an industrial exhibition. At the time, Melinda worked in Microsoft marketing department for only a few months. With a little chatter around the buffet table, she began an affair with one of the richest men in the world. After a fateful meeting, they bumped into each other several times in the office parking lot, and then the boss asked Melinda out. Their affair lasted for seven years before the couple officially registered their relationships. During this time, Melinda managed to achieve great success in the company. They say she did it solely because of her abilities, and not an intimate affair with the boss. After the wedding, Melinda left her job at Microsoft and took up her husband's charity organisation. According to Gates Melinda does it better than him. They are married for 23 years now.

Physicists Maria Sklodowska and Pierre Curie won the Nobel prize for their shared discoveries of radioactivity. At first, only Maria Sklodovskaya worked on radiation. Pierre Curie studied physics of crystals. However, after Maria detected radiation of uranium ore, Pierre Curie postponed his own research to help his wife in her work. Since then, they started using the pronoun 'we' in their laboratory records. Constant lack of money, terrible working conditions and harmful effects of radiation didn’t force them to give up research or part with each other.

There hundreds of stories like that. Office romances have always been and will be – you cannot get away if you work with the opposite sex.

IT TURNS OUT THAT THERE ARE HAPPY ALLIANCES BETWEEN COLLEAGUES TOO.

Therefore, if you feel that Cupid's arrow is trying to break through your armour, ask yourself these questions:

Are you both ready to start a new affair?

Are you in equal positions or do any of you have more authority at the workplace?

Do you interpret flirting the same way?

What consequences should you expect if you break up?

Are you going to conceal your affair or tell everyone?

Think a little and answer. If there is time.

OVERALL!

OBSERVE DECENCIES

I know I’ve already said it, but I do it again. Your professional reputation is at stake, and before you tell everyone about your affair, you need to be firmly confident in the decency of the guy. There are also guys who like talking to office friends over a mug of beer and tell goodness knows what. You went out with him a couple of times, held hands, but he tells everyone that you run around his apartment in a negligee early in the morning, getting ready for work.

Try not to show your feelings at work. Keep your kisses and hugs away from the office or even the darkest corner of the office building.

Don’t spend your working time on off-topic chatting with your beloved one.

In any case, don’t sort things out at work.

If your romance is over, try to maintain a friendly or at least neutral relationship with your ex-partner.

 If you suddenly fell in love with your boss – and even if he’s single – then this affair may compromise your professional reputation. No one will treat you as a good employee, you’ll be a girl of the boss in their eyes. You’ll have to work twice, or even three times as hard to prove you’re an excellent specialist.

 Gues, who women are most jealous of their men? Colleagues, of course. Therefore, starting an affair with a colleague, you’ll automatically rid yourself of unnecessary fears. Your soul mate will always be within a reach of your hand. And you’ll know for sure whether he’s going on a real business trip or a made up one.

Long story short, whether you need an office romance, and what it’ll be, it's up to you!

Weight all the pros and cons and decide – to be or not to be!

You can write and analyse this topic eternally, read a bunch of opinions of psychologists and experts. But, it is best to trust your intuition and reason!

FINDING HUSBAND ISN’T A TRIVIAL THING!

Marriage doesn’t revolve around the marriage lines and a magnificent wedding. It's really hard work. Many girls divorce after a few years of marriage to make their own destiny.

Someone missed the freedom. Someone's husband drank a lot or was a bore, or low paid, or cheated. Someone is tired of his endless relatives.

A friend of mine is totally against marriage. She says: ‘I realized that I don’t want a husband or family in the future, I want to be free and alone, travel, have lovers, an apartment that I like. I don’t want this endless laundry work, cooking soups, pilaffs, etc., brain scooping, quarrels and cheating. Why on earth do women get married? It's awful!'

What is really awful is TO MAKE A MISTAKE CHOOSING A HUSBAND.

It is easy for her now, of course. She’s full of energy to create, earn money, travel, do whatever she wants. It may get harder in 40. You may want to settle down so that your lover doesn’t leave you for his family. You may want to have children and be an official wife on reception.

Of course, there are such an unpleasant thing as 'divorce' as well, but this is the topic for another book, the book that is based on the stories of divorced women.

Remember that life before and after marriage is different.

You should think carefully taking this step.

Never be afraid to remain a spinster, but at least try to get married!

I really hope that you managed to read it within fifteen minutes.

Even if you knew it before and all this is 'garbage', and you disagree with me on some points. Anyway, thanks